Sunday, March 1, 2009

Love Dare Day 2

So this is day 2 of the love dare, and today's dare is:

In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, Do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.

Again, The Dude is going to be working, and the boys and I will be doing something on this rainy day.

Talked to sis, and she said this was actually based on a couple of books, and there is a movie involved as well. She has the books and will bring them to dinner tonight. I'll start reading them and see what they have to say.
So the day time went pretty well., as we were not really together all that much, but I also added the boys to the challenge, and I did fine as I usually don't say anything negative to them either. At dinner it was a bit more difficult, and I ended up not saying a whole lot, but there were a couple of times when I just could not hold it in any longer. Sis really helped at one point when she could see I was nearly biting my tongue in half, and I mouthed across the table, "You see how difficult he is making this." She jumped right in and changed the subject. Thanks sis, I owe you one! And the folks seemed to be uncomfortable with The Dude's ranting and my not saying anything in retort (which I have to admit I do a great deal, and I'm good at). I can usually steer the conversation away from uncomfortable subjects with well timed phrases that let The Dude know it's time to move on, but all of the ones coming to mind were negative, so I just kept silent. I'm almost positive this will illicit a phone call from mom to either sis or me for discussion.
As for doing something unexpected as an act of kindness, that was more difficult as we weren't together or home for the majority of today. I did all of the dishes all day, made him a pot of tea, and changed the bed linens. OK, I normally do all of that stuff, but I usually grumble about the dishes, and always ask him to help make the bed up, so I thought it was a nice gesture. This allowed for him to stay rooted to his chair, watching The Dark Knight. No more or less stomach acid today, so I guess it isn't killing me to be nicer (not that I'm a bitch on wheels to begin with). I prefer a tranquil home, but I have 2 boy humans a husband and a male dog, so tranquility only exists in small slices of my day.


Iasa said...

Well done you. I couldn't do that. I am already as nice as I'm gonna get. And that's pretty freakin nice. ;) well sometimes anyway.

I'm afraid after constraining my feelings for a few days, I would start throwing frying pans at people.

Iasa said...

I did try to be extra sweet to our maniac dog this morning. It wasn't an hour before I was yelling at the cat that he was a dumbass and heaving bagels on the floor.

Can't constrain genius I guess.

J9 said...

Iasa, I made the mistake of reading your comments while on a conference call and had to mute my phone so no one knew I was laughing my butt off!